Wow.

Holy cow, it's been forever since I posted on here. Well, I'm getting married, folks. That's all there is too it. Um, let's see. How can I tie this in with my blog theme?

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OK! I got it!

I'm learning a lot right now about the idea of two becoming one in marriage. You really have to shift your mindset. You've spent the majority of your life thinking about yourself, how to better yourself, how to get where you want to go. But that shifts, at least, if you want a healthy marriage, you have to starting playing as a team.

You become so intimate with the person you're with, you've invested so much emotionally, that to ignore the others needs and desires literally is to hurt yourself. You risk putting distance between yourself and the person you've come to rely on for the majority of your personal emotional needs.

It's not just an emotional thing, though. In a spiritual sense, God put the two of you together for a reason, because you are a more powerful force together than as an individual. This may not be the case for everyone. People can be plenty powerful tools without a significant other, but if a union is under God, I believe that God intends it for the use of His Kingdom. So you have to keep your relationship as sacred as your own heart.

Then, of course, there's the physical and mental stuff. The physical stuff is kind of obvious. But you have to think like a team, too, change your mentality. Your brain starts using a lot less I's and a lot more WE's.

So, stoicism. The thing I'm recovering from. Well, if there's one thing I've learned the most from my relationship is that my words aren't that profound if there's no one there to read them. Context, that's the only place that wisdom has its use. Maybe that's why I don't post here anymore. I've come to value the need to be actively in relationships and to express and define myself within them rather than outside them. Still a stoic? Yep. But I'm getting there. But it's not about me anymore, and whether you're getting married or not, that's a good thing all around.